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Community Guidelines

  1. Move at the pace of trust. In the context of IDC’s community guidelines, adrienne marie brown’s principle from “emergent strategy” to move at the pace of trust is a reminder to approach connection and growth by first giving yourself the space and time to build the necessary trust in the community, in yourself, and in IDC. Participate to the degree that you have built trust here. Take care of yourself, and ask for what you need.

  2. Listen and engage for understanding, not to debate. When we are able to focus on active listening and understanding, rather than debating, we are able to build stronger connections, bridge differences, and foster a culture of collaboration and learning. No one knows everything. Together we know a lot. Take the time you need to fully understand someone else’s point of view and take full advantage of the collective knowledge within our community.

  3. What is shared here stays here, but what is learned here leaves here. We encourage you to take what you are learning here, and apply it to everything you do! Be a force for change within the industry! However, please be mindful that personal stories or experiences that are shared within the Intimacy Professional Accelerator Program and Community should not be shared outside of the community. Additionally please never share collaborator’s (especially actor’s) names when speaking about past projects.

  4. Is it kind? Is it clear? Is it necessary? Before you jump to a knee jerk reaction when responding to someone else’s post that has activated you, ask yourself these three questions. If the answer is no to any of them, move along without engaging. In an extreme circumstance or when community guidelines are being broken, please tag IDC admin to deal with the questionable behavior.

  5. It’s ok to speak in draft. No one is perfect, and no one knows everything already. In this community we make space and give grace for members to work through their thought process when discussing sensitive material. Explicitly stating that you are speaking in draft can help cue other community members on how best to respond to what you have shared. 

  6. Use "I" statements. It can be easy to generalize what you are experiencing and assume everyone else feels the same way too. Using “we” or “you” statements projects your own experience onto someone else. Using “I” statements allows you to share your experience and have it be seen, heard, and acknowledged by others while making the space for others to have their own unique perspective alongside your perspective.

  7. Do not share explicit or inappropriate content that is not relevant to the professional development of Intimacy Professionals. Use content warnings when discussing potentially sensitive topics, and be mindful of the potential impact of your words on others.

  8. In Live Sessions, please be respectful of those speaking. We kindly request that you approach conversations with active listening, curiosity, and patience. If you have something to contribute during an ongoing discussion, raise your Zoom hand, and we’ll call on you.   

                                                  
  9. No matter your intention, you are responsible for your impact. Intention is how you hoped your communication would be received. Impact is how it was actually received. Even with all the expert communication tools available to us as Intimacy Professionals, sometimes we negatively impact someone when our intentions are good. When this happens it's important to acknowledge and apologize for the impact. We’re going to bump into each other sometimes, and that’s ok. Taking responsibility and apologizing helps the whole community build trust.

  10. Do not use this community for advertising or solicitation. This is a space for learning, professional development, and collaboration. It is not intended for the promotion of personal or commercial interests. Thank you!